Bring Those Temper Tantrums On!

People often ask me questions on my website about extreme temper tantrums. Parents ask me whether these tantrums point to potential problems such as mental illness and other serious trouble. There are a whole range of different temper tantrums, starting from the very small ones and ending with the more serious and violent ones.

But, my first advice to parents is always this:

Relax!

Relax because children who throw extreme, off the wall temper tantrums that go on and on are simply children who have not learned how to control their emotions.

In my work as a psychologist and parenting coach, I work with families who have had the most extreme, violent, almost endless temper tantrums. The good news is that the more extreme and out of control, the more rapidly their children tend to learn.

The reason for this is quite simple. When children throw lots of temper tantrums, it means that there are even more opportunities to put their behavior right. It’s just that mom or dad need the tools to be able to tell their child how to respond in a healthy fashion.

Now some of you may be reading this, and you doubt the words in front of you. You’ve been reading various strategies over the internet. You have tried all sorts of different approaches. But, your child is still temper tantruming. Your fears of a mental illness, or that there is something seriously wrong with your child are still circulating in your head.

I understand this, having witnessed hundreds of these off the wall, relentless temper tantrums that just make you want to pull your hair out.

But here is the secret: we have to tap into your child’s learning capacities in order to teach them to drop the tantrum. When you do so, you’ll begin to see how quickly your children can learn that a tantrum does not serve them in any way.

Think of your child as a learning machine. And think of yourself as a teaching machine.

You need to become a teacher of your children instead of a punisher of your children. Because punishing them simply doesn’t give them the valuable skills that they need in life. Only teaching them can do that.

So, remember what I told you at the very beginning. The most important thing is to RELAX. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that there is something seriously the matter with your child just because they are having these temper tantrums.

I’ve helped many moms and dads with my easy to understand and use, proven ‘tantrum fixer formula.’ It will put you right back in charge of your home.

They just need to be ‘untaught’ a few of the bad habits that sometimes you might have helped them fall into. With my, ‘tantrum fixer formula’ you’ll have all the techniques to do that!

Then you can look forward to watching your children learn - instead of watching them go off into meltdown!



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Temper Tantrum Triggers – “I Want To Do It My Way!”

Temper tantrums can be enough to send you right over the edge! Some moms and dads sometimes get to the stage where they feel as if they just cannot go on. Sometimes children’s temper tantrums go way off the scale of what you can even imagine. Take it from someone who has seen lots of temper tantrums in his life!

As a licensed psychologist and parenting expert, I help suffering moms and dads to put a brake on these temper tantrums. It is usually best to stop the tantrums early, before they get to the point of no return.

Now, there are all sorts of temper tantrums – from the tiny little outbursts to the overblown, full-on explosion-type temper tantrum. But my experience has shown me that there are just a small number of actual triggers which can bring on all of these different volumes of temper tantrums.


With these extreme tantrums, your patience will be tested beyond limit. Even worse, these sorts of temper tantrums can hurt your family and your child - if they are not dealt with in the correct manner.

As soon as you start to understand these temper tantrum triggers and get the parenting tools that you need, you will find that it gets easier to teach your child to get their emotions under control. Then, in time, the temper tantrums will begin to fade…and then disappear completely from your lives.


One of the biggest triggers of a temper tantrum in children is:


MOM, I WANT TO DO IT MY WAY!


I think that all of you moms and dads will all recognize this tantrum trigger!


The ‘I WANT TO DO IT MY WAY!’ Temper Tantrum Trigger takes all kinds of shapes and forms. For some kids it might mean wanting to walk by themselves rather than holding your hand. Others might want to run around the house naked rather than getting dressed. For others, this means stomping out of the doctor’s office and having a temper tantrum rather than going through with their appointment.


Now, of course there are situations where it is completely fine to allow your son or daughter to do things their own way. But, in a world where parents have been encouraged to give their children choices, many parents have mistakenly allowed their children too much control.


And this is the problem here. Sometimes, kids who tantrum have been given too many choices in life. And so now, when they don’t get their own way, they react by working themselves into a temper tantrum.

When your child learns that you give in to their wishes time after time, they start to believe that they are in charge of things. As time goes on, this will always create serious problems as soon as pre-school or elementary school begins or other expectations are put on your child.


I often remind parents that children simply cannot know what is best for them. If they did then mom and dad would serve no role as parents…other than offering them:


* A roof over their head
* A credit card as soon as they know how to use one
* Some supportive wishes along the lines of, “I’m sure you know what is best, sweetheart. Of course you don’t have to go to school today if you don’t want to! Just have a temper tantrum instead!”


Well, of course, this is just madness gone mad. You can’t let the temper tantrum put your child in charge.

So, here is the thing you need to understand with this temper tantrum trigger:


Constantly giving in to your child’s way of doing things is only storing up problems for the future. Sometimes you need to stand firm and make them do things your way.


Otherwise, you’ve got a whole lifetime of temper tantrums ahead of you!


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