Bring Those Temper Tantrums On!

People often ask me questions on my website about extreme temper tantrums. Parents ask me whether these tantrums point to potential problems such as mental illness and other serious trouble. There are a whole range of different temper tantrums, starting from the very small ones and ending with the more serious and violent ones.

But, my first advice to parents is always this:

Relax!

Relax because children who throw extreme, off the wall temper tantrums that go on and on are simply children who have not learned how to control their emotions.

In my work as a psychologist and parenting coach, I work with families who have had the most extreme, violent, almost endless temper tantrums. The good news is that the more extreme and out of control, the more rapidly their children tend to learn.

The reason for this is quite simple. When children throw lots of temper tantrums, it means that there are even more opportunities to put their behavior right. It’s just that mom or dad need the tools to be able to tell their child how to respond in a healthy fashion.

Now some of you may be reading this, and you doubt the words in front of you. You’ve been reading various strategies over the internet. You have tried all sorts of different approaches. But, your child is still temper tantruming. Your fears of a mental illness, or that there is something seriously wrong with your child are still circulating in your head.

I understand this, having witnessed hundreds of these off the wall, relentless temper tantrums that just make you want to pull your hair out.

But here is the secret: we have to tap into your child’s learning capacities in order to teach them to drop the tantrum. When you do so, you’ll begin to see how quickly your children can learn that a tantrum does not serve them in any way.

Think of your child as a learning machine. And think of yourself as a teaching machine.

You need to become a teacher of your children instead of a punisher of your children. Because punishing them simply doesn’t give them the valuable skills that they need in life. Only teaching them can do that.

So, remember what I told you at the very beginning. The most important thing is to RELAX. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that there is something seriously the matter with your child just because they are having these temper tantrums.

I’ve helped many moms and dads with my easy to understand and use, proven ‘tantrum fixer formula.’ It will put you right back in charge of your home.

They just need to be ‘untaught’ a few of the bad habits that sometimes you might have helped them fall into. With my, ‘tantrum fixer formula’ you’ll have all the techniques to do that!

Then you can look forward to watching your children learn - instead of watching them go off into meltdown!



Watch a Video of a Child Who Tantums!